If you don’t have anything nice to say…

Nowhere is my domain of screaming into cyberspace about what irks me… I felt this post couldn’t wait a week for it to be considered my “blog day” post. I know quite a few people who need this for many reasons.

I just read What happens when you “Just Keep Swimming” which drew me in because I related, but it got me thinking about how many people just try to push through like that, myself included. Many people deal with issues behind closed doors, but I find it more amazing as to how many people are so oblivious as to why.

I’m not even just talking about mental health, but anything that someone would keep down, away from the limelight so to speak.

My parents used to say “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all…” which seems like some common sense. However, it seems like as I’ve gotten older, unshielded from the world in the land of adulting, people don’t follow that… at all. Instead people thrive on drama, even Trump says he “likes the chaos”.

For example, there’s a new mom with a crying baby. Someone gets annoyed at having to deal with the noise, but then someone shames her for breastfeeding in public.

Another example, there’s a high schooler walking the halls to get to class. Someone who they don’t even know knocks the books out their hands and calls them ugly.

Yet another, a Muslim walks down the street clad in their symbolic religious garb. Someone gets in their face about not conforming to another religion or being one of those “terrorists”…

How about this… keep it to yourselves people! Let the woman care for the child in as much peace as she can get from a newborn, let the student live their life without feeling the need to dump on it, and let a person have their own path of belief without trying to invalidate it.

Don’t. Say. Anything.

It’s those people who make life difficult for everyone else because they feel like they get offended if a cow farts in their direction from a mile away while they think their own shit doesn’t stink. Instead of these people taking the idea to heart on “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” the people who would have been lectured or belittled are the ones who remain silent… keep secrets… bury whatever they need in order to survive.

As humans, we’ve had a step up on this planet for some time. We can live without worrying about survival… or rather we should be able to with all our advancements. Yet it’s turned a lot of people into entitled loudmouths. This leaves some good people who have to go every day putting on that mask, hiding that secret, or burying the stress because other people can’t get over themselves.

Be compassionate. Give the benefit of the doubt. Realize you are not the only one on the planet who matters. That person is someone’s baby, sibling, parent, friend… that person could be someone’s lifeline. That’s right… they could be the only thing keeping someone alive and upright.

That Muslim… they train therapy dogs to be ready for when their future owner needs a presence for their constant seizures or other disability.

That student… they make sure to visit their grandmother after school every day regardless of whether or not she remembers who they are.

That mom… she has one of the most dependent beings on the planet depending on her to care for them so they can become a functioning member of society.

The next time someone like that feels uncomfortable, I hope they swallow it. It’s about time that society “devolve” back to that childhood concept of “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” because I guarantee that if we did… people wouldn’t feel as inclined to hide a portion of themselves.

Save the masks for Halloween. Be who you are. Realize that, if we all work towards this, we won’t need to survive. Together we wouldn’t just live, just maybe… we’d thrive.

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